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I am pregnant! … again. Just the month after the previous embryo failed to attach, this one has had more luck. Strangely, I haven’t been as confident about this conception as I was about the previous unsuccessful one. I felt the implantation take place just as last time, but this time it was crampy and quite painful…and it has been ever since.
I didn’t have patience to wait for the date of my missed period, so I did a pregnancy test. It was one of those traditional sticks. (Traditional, but very simple to use.)
It was too early and it came back negative. Then, thinking that if the tester strip got exposed to pregnancy hormones in the urine at any point, it still might react and show a result, I peed on the same stick again and again, once a day, over the next 3 days… just in case. Gross, I know and I was wrong! Don’t follow my example- buy a new stick for each test, it only works once!
Then on the day that I missed my period, I tried Boots’ digital pregnancy test.
Except I didn’t read the instructions- weed on the wrong end of the cartilage, plugged it in the wrong way into the holder, then wondered why it didn’t want to work. I tried again, still no luck. “So isn’t it like those insulin tester strips that I’ve seen diabetics use?” I wondered. …well almost, but not quite!
Eventually I read the instructions, while I kept on having to send Littlins out of the bathroom, “because Mummy is on the loo!”. After reading it about 3 times, I finally made sense of it. Aha!!! It really is simple once you get it. I think I was just being thick, because I was nervous.
By this time I had peed 3 times in short succession. Could I still squeeze out enough for a test? Hmm, there was no way I could wait any longer, so I sure hoped that I could! I decided to pee in a cup so I captured every drop. A quick rummage in the kitchen to find something suitable and I ended up with an old, clean washing powder measuring cup. (No, it didn’t make its way back to the kitchen after, but into the bin!)
Now to break out my last test strip. Poke it in the measuring cup and count to 20. Then reread the instructions, follow them to the letter and put the cartilage the right way around into the digital holder. Then 3 long minutes of wait! Ahhhh!
That’s when Little Man came in “I need a wee mummy!”, a quick scurry to put all evidence out of sight. … ‘cause all you need at this point is little people asking lots of Why? What’s that? questions, isn’t it?! When he’s done, he is ushered out of the sanctuary, (that’s not such a sanctuary once you have kids) and the 3 minutes have passed… I look…It says…Pregnant! 
Whoopee!
I took a picture with my phone and sent it to Oh-so-lovely-Daddy. He was travelling, somewhere between the Netherlands, Belgium and Manchester… I loose track sometimes. I then waited for his response, only to call him an hour later to find he couldn’t pick up his messages or talk to me, he was boarding a flight. “Ahhhh, I need to talk to him! I can’t keep this news to myself!”
That evening Oh-so-lovely-Daddy called back and we finally talked. “Is it for real this time?”, was our question to each other. Well only time will tell!
That was just couple of weeks ago. Since then we have cautiously told some friends and family. Yes, things can still go wrong and I decided I want the support around me if it does… but actually I am trying to not dwell on what could go wrong, but stay positive.
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I feel congratulations are too early at this point, or is that just because of my recent miscarriage?
When did you tell friends and family?
Was it different for your 1st child and subsequent children?
Oh wow!! So, so happy for you.
You make sure you take it easy xx
Thanks! I am taking it as easy as one can with a 3 and a 4 year old. 🙂
… but I lie! My parents are staying for 3.5 weeks so I do get some cat naps.
Huge huge congratulations. What a rollercoastet of emotions you have had recently. You two must just look at each other and conceive.
LOL! Yeap, we do. We are a perfect biological match 😉 … that’s why I was so confident last time. It was humbling to have had that experience and puts this pregnancy in a different light (understanding that there are no guarantees).
Well done for getting this far 🙂
It took me a year to get pregnant again after our loss. I stopped buying those tests and went for the cheap hospital ones that react to 10mc of hormone. Much better, especially after I did exactly like you with plugging it in all wrong.
This tine my friends and some family knew but we didn’t tell the kids till 12 weeks to try and shield them from some of the worry. The elder two guessed though 🙂
Once you figure out how to use them the digital tests are brilliant, but they are costly month after month, if you are not successful.
Little Miss has been talking about a baby since our previous conception, that’s without her knowing or even being able to overhear anything. It’s rather spooky.
We are holding off on telling them till probably the 20 week scan.
Congratulations! I know how you feel, I had an early miscarriage on my first pregnancy and it made me unsure of when to tell the news second time, but all was fine and the people I told would have been the people who supported me when things went wrong. Definitely you should be rejoiceful! xxx
I will make an effort to rejoice. 🙂 Thank you!
It is very hard to judge about telling people, though I think it may be becoming easier now than even 10 years ago, as the stigma around miscarriage slightly reduces.
Congratulations! How lovely! My daughter in law had a miscarriage last year and when she did fall pregnant again we were all very cautious but then I decided it was a completely different pregnancy and her and the family had a right to be happy and look forward to a happy event. Which resulted in my granddaughter. So enjoy being pregnant and look forward to this latest addition to your family!
Thank you Anne, I will try. 🙂
Congratulations!! I really hope this is a safe pregnancy for you. Sending you lots of good wishes!
Thank you for the good wishes. 🙂
Huge Congratulations!
Having a miscarriage made me worry when I fell pregnant subsequently but thankfully all was fine last time around & fingers crossed it will be for you too.
Thanks! I am trusting it will be all fine, but do feel like a first time mum worrying about each ache and pain.
Oh my lovely, what wonderful news! I only popped over here to have a look at your layout after all your wonderful help over the last few days and now I am all smiley, hopping about and won’t settle to work again for quite some time! I think, after miscarriage, it takes a long time to feel secure and having the support of friend and family is hugely important. I told everyone the minute I found out with all of mine (I lost my first one) because I needed people on my side.
Take care of you. xxxx
Thank you Chris. It is good to be able to openly talk about it, as you say then the people who are your support network are there for you in the ups and downs.
Congrats to you all again … we’re really happy for you. Sending lots of positive vibes xxx
Thanks Kate. Now I can openly moan about my all day morning sickness at least and not have to rely on DMs. 🙂
That is awesome news. Huge congratulations. Sending you lots of love and hope you keep well. xx
Thank you Susan.
lovely news, hope everything goes well for you x
I’ve got fingers crossed too. 🙂 Thank you!
Huge congratulations! You may worry that congratulations are too early at this point, but I say make the most of it!
With both of my pregnancies I announced them as soon as I had the positive pregnancy test in my hand. I reckoned that I wanted my friends along for the journey, whatever happened. Although when I was expecting my son we left it until the 20 week scan before telling my daughter, simply because 9 months is a very long time to a small child and I didn’t want her to lose interest in the whole thing.
I hope everything goes well with this pregnancy for you, and I look forward following your journey. *hugs*
Thank you! I think we will wait to tell the Littlins till we are about 20 weeks too.
ooooh only just seen this! What great news! Hugs xxx
Thank you Emma! 🙂
oooh how exciting. What great news! Hugs xxxx ( sorry if this posted twice )
Oooh wow Congratulations M! Wonderful news. Good wishes to you and yours! Maybe you’ll be able to try The Blossom Method with your new little one! My book will be out June 2012! Much love
Thank you! Viv, the timing is perfect, I am so looking forward to the book. Do you think I will be sent a signed copy for review as a birth present? 😉
Yes of course! I’m ensure you get a signed copy M! All best for now.
What I meant to say was I’ll ensure you get a signed copy to review M! I’ve been editing all day and now I can’t even write a sentence!
I’m thrilled, absolutely thrilled! Fingers, toes, legs and uterus crossed for you! Look after yourself and make the most of those naps whilst you can!
Thank you Elizabeth, trying to nap as much as possible, when it is possible… and you now how often that is with two Littlins and a household to run! 😀
Thats such lovely news. Well done xx
Ooooh, Brilliant news, I’ve got everything crossed for you guys, xxx
Yay!!! That’s sooooooooo exciting! Congratulations. You take care of yourself xxx
Thanks Lovely!
Wow fantastic. I love how these pregnancy tests have become so complicated that you literally need a doctorate to work them. I was the same with the last digital I bought!
We didn’t even tell our parents when we were expecting Princess until I was about 14 weeks, partly out of fear something would happen again and partly as we wanted to enjoy it by ourselves and revel in the moment. Some friends only found out when I walked in their front doors, with a baby bump about 6 months gone!
Don’t think I’d be so secretive and overprotective if there were a next time though, but who knows.
We had to tell my folks as they are staying with us for 3 weeks and I am a nightmare to live with. So we thought best to share with them early and have a valid reason to be hormonal, but also mention that I had just miscarried the previous one, so they don’t tell everyone.
I think if I had got a digital pregnancy test first, it would’ve made sense immediately, but because I was making assumptions based on the traditional one, it took some time to figure out what goes where and how.
Yay!! Congratulations lovely!! x
Staying positive is exactly the right thing to do, I am super chuffed for you lovely. Mich x
I fell pregnant quickly after a miscarriage – she is 17 months old now!
Really happy for you
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