Parenting can have such amazing rewards… if only we notice them!
You work your guts out, with often little reward. So often we miss the magic moments.
“Not every day is good, but there is good in every day”
…you just need to hope your eyes and heart to see it.
Hugo has been struggling lately as the middle child. If things bothered him, he’d wake up in the night. So a week ago we started talking about the 3 best things of our day. These were short bursts of cuddles and talking in the evening before bedtime. Before I knew it he was opening up about other things too.
These chats are real moments to cherish! Why has it taken me so long to realise this was needed?
My darling second child, Hugo, just came up really worried that he couldn’t find me downstairs, but found me in bed before them being in bed. Told him I was fine, just needed to rest.
-Mummy can we do what we do every evening?- he asked
-What’s that?- me pretending not to know
– Talk about the the best things in our day?- he smiled.
So we talked about his day. Then with such maturity he asked: -And what were your best things?
So I told him about two out of the the things by which we got distracted. Holding hands all the while.
We finished our chat with a little prayer of thanks.
He was having really restless nights before we started this little routine about a week ago. I realised that the children need to have one-to-one time with us. Max gets his time on days he’s not in nursery, but Hugo & Angelina rarely had.
I’m working on staggering their bedtimes so we can give them a bit of cuddly time. Why had it taken me 5 years too realise kids need this time?!
Do you manage to have regular special time with just one child at a time? When do you do it? How do you ensure it isn’t interrupted by another, attention seeking, child?