A couple of weeks ago I was solo parenting and really struggling to juggle my 6 year old, 4 year old and 11 month old, undertaking their bath- and bedtime routine on my own. I bumped into the lovely Faye, who runs Blissful Bambinos, at our favourite bookshop and asked how she’d suggest injecting Blissful into our bath and bedtime routine. She and her business partner, Sophie, gave me a couple of pointers and when it was obvious I was too exhausted to remember even half of it, they offered to write them down for me. With their permission I’m now sharing these top tips with you, because I think they are great!
For many parents, bath time with more than one child can often be a bit of a juggling act! In theory, bath time is meant to be the signal that the day is beginning to slow down and that your children need to begin to unwind ready for a restful night’s sleep. However, this is not always the reality especially when you have more than one bambino; it can be busy, stressful and hectic!
Here are our 7 tips for a blissful bath and bedtime
1. Plan ahead
Depending on the age of your children and considering each age and stage of your children’s development, there are various ways that you can make bath time that bit more blissful! What are the things they enjoy? What toys do they like? Will they want a bath or are they ready for “grown up” showers?
2. Divide up responsibilities
Older children like to feel a sense of responsibility. By involving them in getting the bath ready, pouring in the bath foam and helping them, safely, run the bath water, you can help them have a focus and feel involved.
Younger children can be given the opportunity to choose bath toys, perhaps being encouraged by their older sibling as something to do together, even dropping the toys into the water is a role that can be taken on by one child.
3. Get the children to help each other
During bath time each child can be involved in helping each other. With children close in age, divide tasks as equally as possible. Whether it is washing each other’s feet or passing bottles of shampoo, all these roles encourage independent skills and positive sibling relationships.
As a parent we want to always encourage sibling friendships, so any way this can be done is worth doing.
4. Watch for signs of tiredness
Once the fun of being in the water is over, this can be the time that tiredness and challenging behaviours really start to appear. It’s our child’s way of displaying their exhaustion and their readiness for bed!
5. Distract from destruction
It is vital at this stage to keep your mood light and fun, even if you really don’t feel like it! Try to keep things as stress free as possible. Use distraction techniques, should conflict occur with siblings, or with you, and focus their minds on roles, such as choosing their pyjamas or brushing their teeth which story to read and so on.
One of the loveliest ways to end the day, is all of you snuggled up on a bed, reading a bedtime story! It will bring the family together in such a beautiful and blissful way!
7. Give siblings some special one-on-one time
It’s also key to give your eldest child time and opportunities on their own during their bedtime routine. Depending on their age, they can be independent and not being asked to base their role around younger brothers or sisters. This can be something as simple as reading in peace and quiet or having the chance to discuss their day with you on a one to one basis once their siblings are in bed or settling down.
What is your bedtime routine? Are there any other tips you would add to this list?
This is NOT a sponsored post! Blissful Bambino is a parent’ s support and advisory service in Oxfordshire and Berkshire run by the lovely Sophie and Faye, two great professionals They provide one to one tailored care in the comfort of the parents’ own home. They occasionally provide free drop-in sessions too, which is when I got chatting with Faye, who I’d also talked to via Twitter previously and also had the absolute pleasure to meet her business partner Sophie too.