Less than a week to go to the big 3rd birthday bash. Over the weekend I was talking to a friend who had offered to help with party preparations. She asked about party favours and what I am planning to do about them. I said- Nothing! … and I explained:
In my view , here’s the exchange:
You go to a birthday party,
You take a present,
In return you get food, drink and entertainment.
You all, hopefully, have a great time.
There… exchange done!
At some point in the future you will most likely reciprocate the invitation and the person will also bring a present, etc.
There is an very old tradition in most parts of the world of giving left-over food to friends and family as they leave the party. This tradition stems (as far as I know) from when refrigeration technology did not exist and it was to make sure no excess food went to waste. It is sensible!
… and now what have we done with this sensible tradition? Out of over-politeness, through commercialisation we have invented this thing of party bags. We hand these bags full of sweets, often lollipops (my pet hate) and some cheap (or not so cheap) toy to the children as they leave.
I hate getting them and I am making a stand against them- I will not be giving them out. Does that make us rude? Well, probably in some people’s eyes, yes! Yet to me the exchange is already complete without these party favours.
Creating party bags not only give parents a headache, they are an unnecessary financial burden too…in my modest opinion. You hear tales of parents getting competitive and not to be outdone by each other, the bags get more silly with each party. (Not something I have experienced so far in our circle of friends. Thank you friends!)
I think a piece of birthday cake or other yummy bites to take home (if there is any left to give) and a thank you card with some great photos of the party are much more sensible! The cake is for the adults who maybe weren’t there at the party and the photo a reminder of the good times had.
What do you think? Am I missing the point? Do you do party bags? Do you like doing them and getting them?